To the nasty gentleman at the pizza place!
Yeah you! The one who was a complete nasty to my kid.
“Yes you”! When my kid was simple just trying to get your attention by saying “yoohoo”! It’s a cute word he just learned and he thinks it’s funny to peek from behind something and say “yoohoo” and smile. He learned from these other kids that were sitting next to us in this very pizza place. I’m sorry if his little “yoohoo” offended you.
However, he is three and YES! And I’m having one of those days. The exact one you are thinking in your head and looking at me with that pity look.
“Yes”, I know and my husband is out of town yet again. I pity me too. And I’m not perfect and maybe you and your wife, if you have one, do it better. But, I’m doing the best I can.
“Yes”. He is whining and not listening to me at the moment. And he will have a consequence for that. I know my child and I know he is starving. And he is acting this way because our food is not coming fast enough in this fast pizza by the slice place. I was here early and I gave him a snack on the way. I was obviously trying to avoid the whines. However, kids are kids and they whine, and at times choose not to listen. They are not perfect but who is?
I’m not a bad parent and I’m human. I appreciate the fact that you are taking pity, and shaking your head at me, however, save it for yourself. He was not disturbing anyone and you didn’t have to stare at us.
Thanks for letting me know that; “he just stuck his tongue out at me when I asked him to sit on his bottom”. I was ignoring him and I’m just fine. And it is his tongue for peat sakes.
I’m not sure why you thought it was okay to interrupt my lunch, to tell me that, “if he were your kid, you would spank him, right then and there”. He is not your kid he’s mine. And in your eyes our lunch was an epic failure. However, if you stuck around you would have saw his behavior totally changed as soon as he got a few bites of food into him. And yes, he turned his behavior around. I’m proud of that.
What you also didn’t see, was that he wasn’t able to earn his dessert and didn’t get to walk on the curb due to his behavior at the start of our lunch. And “yes” he was upset. He could have thrown a full- blown tantrum because he lost his rewards. But he didn’t, because he has learned that there are consequences for his actions, a small success on this parenting road. A valuable lesson that even some adults don’t even know. Instead of “yelling or giving him a spanking”, I choose to, and will continue to, teach him that for every action there is a reaction. Sometimes they are good and what we want and sometimes they are not.
He’s obviously not perfect and either am I but he is learning. And just like riding a bike, sometime you fall, but you get back up. I’m not sure what “spanking” would have taught him or “yelling at him” would have done? Probably make me look like a “terrible”, “crazy parent”, but I already looked that way, to you. But sir, believe me. My grace, my cool, and my heart were all breaking in that moment, not for my child, but for yours. I can handle my child and maybe it’s time you learned a lesson from yours.